Monday, December 22, 2008
We have now been dealing with the stresses of finances or lack thereof and of course making our 2 bedroom 1,000 sq foot apartment feel more like a home to the 3 of us. We figure we will be in the apartment at the least a few more years. So I have been trying to take on the task of reducing inventory in the home! Kind of hard when you work full time and have a child and then there was the wedding and now Christmas is just days away! I have managed to donate at least 3 huge boxes of stuff now though and sold off 2 garbage bags of clothes to a consignment shop so I am making SOME progress!
Gareth is adjusting well to Michigan and especially to being a step daddy! He does an awesome job with Gabby and I really could not ask for anyone better for the job! He walks her to school and back….helps her with projects….plays games with her….and we take turns reading to her at bedtime Gareth is a bit down since this is his first Christmas EVER away from home which is sad for sure but I would lie if I didn’t say he has brought me down a bit too…..I am trying my hardest to understand what it was like but I am a bit jaded due to the military having me away from my family for many Christmases since the age of 19! I was super excited since this is OUR first Christmas together and I know Gareth is excited about that too but he still is very down so that makes it hard.
Gabby has been away just over a week now and it has been HARD for me! I feel quite alone without her even if Gareth is with me it still is just WEIRD. She is truly such a hunk of my heart and I cannot wait to see her on Christmas Eve day. She has been with her Dad which is awesome for her as I know how much she misses him throughout the year and she only gets to see him about 2 times a year. She did call me up though on Saturday night crying telling me how much she missed me which made me feel good I must admit as I was getting worried she wasn’t missing me as much as I was missing her haha! I told her she needed to enjoy her time with Daddy though and that she would be back with me very soon, so she calmed in the end…the call still very much warmed me and made me feel better.
I have been trying to get a photo book made up of our wedding photos for Gareth’s mum and also for ourselves and it has turned out to be a bigger pain in the ass then expected! 1st had to figure the software out, 2nd had to edit a ton of the pics still, 3rd have to deal with my crappy laptop that keeps needing to be shut down since it gets too hot even when there is no need for it to be as hot as it is randomly!, and 4th uploaded all the wrong pics so had to delete (which I could only delete a few at a time since it would not let me clear all at once!) and then upload the proper edited photos! SIGH…… My goal at this point is to have it ordered by the new year!!!
I have however gotten 8 gifts in a jar made up (half a bean soup and the other half smores in a jar) they turned out pretty cute and will go to the grandparents and teachers (Gabby had a snow day on day of her class party so teachers will get them as New Year gifts).
Only present things I have left to do are put tags on them and find something for Gareth (even though we said no gifts he got me something so now I have to get him something!). Gareth wrapped all the gifts this year so that was AWESOME! He does a much better job than me too haha!
I started weight watchers just over a week ago and lost 4.8 pounds my first week! I was pleased but know it could have been better if I had really followed the plan. I am hoping Christmas doesn’t pack too much on me and that I stay the same or by some miracle have lost even a fraction this coming Saturday after Christmas! My clothes are all just way too tight and I cannot afford to keep buying bigger sizes so enough was enough! I am trying to get the whole 10,000 steps in a day too but it is proving to be a lot harder than I anticipated! I asked at the meeting what the average mileage that was and they said 5 miles! So I am going to try and walk more during the day and maybe even start utilizing the gym we have at our apartment! Spring time will get outside and hoof it a lot more as well! I want to feel good in my swimsuit this summer dang it!
The snow just won’t stop coming down here in Michigan it is crazy! I don’t remember us having this much snow before Christmas in a long time! Of course I was away for 10 years but yeah still haha…it is really pretty though even if it is making the roads hell. Need to get snow pants as want to start going sledding with Gabby on the weekends as what a great workout that is huffing and puffing my way up the hills!
Gareth and I need to get cooking on our immigration paperwork too. It has to be sent out by mid January I believe so that is in no time at all! We have almost all completed it is just putting all together and assembling with cover sheet etc….picking up our certified copy of marriage license tonight after work and then need to find out tax info I think for 2005 and then we are pretty much set! Oh and of course photos of us together but that is easy too! Will be so nice when it is sent off! Feels like we have constant paperwork lately and I just want it to go away haha. I need to apply for a masters program as well so that makes more paperwork for me too! Someday I will be able to rest more…..
And after all my random blabbing here are a couple pics I love of just me from our wedding day....more to come!
Monday, December 1, 2008
That is where we got married on November 18th, 2008
We then had our reception on November 22nd, 2008 and had a lovely evening! Friends and family came out to support....kids had a blast with fake mustaches....there was WAY too many cupcakes....and I broke the head off my Bear groom on our custom made cake topper(thank god for hot glue) after our cuppycake fight/feeding to one another!
I don't think things could have been more perfect then they were....Everything went just fine for us!
Have to say we are relieved it is done and over with though haha! Now we sit and anxiously await our pro pics!
Thank goodness the holidays are upon us so that keeps our minds and bodies busy so we don't go too nutty awaiting those shots!
I plan on getting back into my digi and maybe even paper and glue scrapping perhaps as early as this weekend! I am feeling the craft bug again and am also making up some homemade holiday gifts this year. Being frugal has actually put me really in the holiday spirit.
Oh and if you haven't seen this vid please watch and maybe it will help get you in the true holiday spirit as well!
Tuesday, November 4, 2008
And here we are together!
He is a bit sleepy of course but we have settled in decently his first week here! Still lots of boxes to sort and unpack but overall routine with him and I and Miss Gabby we are just splendid :)
We are crazy busy sorting last minute wedding stuff and apartment stuff and just STUFF in general haha! We are ready for our honeymoon for sure! 2 Weeks until the wedding and then few days after that is the reception yipppeeeeee!!!
Sunday, October 19, 2008
Monday, October 13, 2008
Oh man was yesterday gorgeous...I mean October 12 and it was over 70 degrees here in Michigan! Perfectness....cool enough for jeans yet warm enough to wade in Lake Michigan!
Now to make it to Thursday where I will know me and Gareth's fate..........
Thursday, October 2, 2008
And cuz my page is looking boring with no photo posts I will include a pic of where we plan to elope!
SIGH it looks so perfect........
Wednesday, October 1, 2008
Good news is only 16 days until Gareth's interview at the embassy! EEEEEEEEKKKKK this also makes me crazy nervous as well our fate is up to them! That one day! I am praying that they give him the CONGRATS that day and I can move onto next stress factor; him actually getting into Michigan this time! haha....
Friday, September 26, 2008
Also for the month of October Gabby and I have a date to go see Beverly Hills Chihuaha and then going to a small town up north for their annual pumpkin roll with friends :)
Things for the wedding are coming together more and more....the list of "to buy" things is going down finally so am anxious for it to be here and enjoy that week of wedding bliss!!!!
Sunday, September 21, 2008
16th!!!!! We are beyond thrilled! We are planning on if all goes well he will fly here around October 29th and we shall get married on November 18th with our reception on the 22nd! Sooooo exciteddddddddddd!!!!!
Tuesday, September 16, 2008
Sunday, September 14, 2008
Monday, September 8, 2008
Oh my gosh I am so beyond excited at the prospect I may actually feel my Bear's arms around me come October!!!!!
This also means one step closer to setting an official wedding date!!!! EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE :D
Saturday, September 6, 2008
Wedding planning is going well despite not having the groom or a date haha....completely changed color scheme and am so much happier with new choices!
Now for the hubby to be to get here in Michigan so we can finalize all plans!!!!
I miss him so much and this waiting is just torture and pure annoyance.
Friday, August 22, 2008
Our next step is waiting for the London embassy to receive our visa packet. It has cleared California (this is the part that took over 200 days!) and then made its way to the National Visa Center (NVC) which it arrived there 8/16/08 and then was shipped out to London this week on 8/19/08.
Once London has our goods we then need to wait for a packet 3 to arrive to Gareth which he then sends back to London saying "Hey all I am ready for this interview, let's do it!" . Then we wait AGAIN for a packet 4 to arrive to Gareth which then tells him when his interview is scheduled in London. WHEW...seems like a lot more yet but we are hoping to have it all completed in September! Fingers crossed!
One thing is we can call the Department Of State Visa department and they are so friendly and give me the info before we even get the packets in the mail at this point! So hopefully when I call late next week they will say London has our stuff. And hopefully fingers crossed soon after they will tell us when Gareth's interview is scheduled for!!!
Once Gareth has the interview his actual visa should be to him in a weeks time and then plane tickets can be purchased! EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE We are SO beyond ready!
Saturday, August 9, 2008
Ok I still have tears of happiness rolling down my face! I checked email at 9 pm eastern time last night and nothing....I told myself "Go to bed and maybe this day will have brought luck and Gareth will wake me with the good news" seriously I told myself that ......well phone rang at a little after 3 am here and sure enough APROVEDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD and dated 8/8/08 how rad?! We got off phone and I began to pray and thank God the Lord anyone who made this happen finally haha.....tears of happiness just started flowing and I popped out of bed and had to get on the computer to talk with Gareth more and of course tell all of you my story too! It has been such a long journey I hope and pray the rest goes quick and smooth for us!!!! SIGH this feels so good.....my heart is racing and I could put all these tears of happiness into a bucket to water my plants there are so many heehee!
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Wednesday, August 6, 2008
As for me and Gareth we are happy to announce we got an RFE haha....what is this you ask? Well it was a letter stating "Request for more Evidence" what kind? Well we had to send more proof we knew each other in person and had met in person within the 2 years PRIOR to us filling out the form in January to apply for a fiance' visa....ARGHHHHHHHHHH we sent this shit already people!!!! So yeah I ended up sending them 12 pics of us all labeled with dates, addys, info...mapquest of how far apart we lived, my passport pages again this time in color, and seriously a whole butt ton of other stuff they prob did not need! Honestly I think they want to do a DNA test or something it is just ridiculous!
So that all got to them in Cali yesterday early afternoon. Now we are back to waiting again.....good news is SUPPOSEDLY they have only 60 days to give us an answer now.....the average on the message board I go on is only around a month and most recently only taking a couple weeks for couples to get approvals after this step...BUT knowing the luck we been having we still have 60 plus more days to go....SIGH
I drive myself absolute bonkers checking the immigration site throughout the day to see if the date has changed on the last time they have worked on our case...a "touch" it is called according to my fellow message board support groupies ;) So yes Gareth and I want to be TOUCHED BADDDDDDDD hahaha!
I just keep sighing out loud here as like I said I am a ball of emotions right now. I know this too shall pass so trying to stay positive and get the negative out and away from me.
Is it Friday yet?
Thursday, July 24, 2008
Anywayyyyy everyone wish me luck on this new venture!
Oooohhh and engagement ring arrived it is GORGEOUS! Just have to get it sized as it is a little too loose yet.
Still no word on our visa approval :(
Thursday, July 17, 2008
and side view
I am so beyond excited to get this puppy on my naked ring finger! I dunno why as it sure doesn't bring Gareth any closer to me but in a weird way I have a feeling it may bring me comfort until he does arrive! It is a 1 carat diamond center stone that they did some crazy lab stuff to so they made it a gorgeous ocean blue diamond eeeeeee LOVE. Then it has white diamonds on the sides and is all set in 18k white gold. SWOON.
As for visa news.....called today since today is our 180 day since filing day....and was told "Sorry ma'm you are still in security checks" ARGHHHHHHHHHHHH seriously how long is it going to take?! There have now been quite a few March approvals on my message board I go to for visa filer support! To say it makes me upset and livid is an understatement! I am trying to remain calm and say they are making us wait for some reason or another....it just better be a good one as they are wasting tons of precious time we could be together making babies and whatnot haha!!!
Monday, July 14, 2008
I just want our approval so we can move on to next steps of the process!!!!
We did receive a touch on our case today but I am thinking it is cause I called on Friday. We had a touch on Friday as well after the call. I am praying the touch today was not just them shuffling us to the bottom of a batch again.
We reach 180 days this week. As soon as USCIS posts new processing times and state they are processing up to our date I am going to call again if we have yet to receive our approval. This is just silly.....and so unfair. :(
Wednesday, July 9, 2008
What doesn't feel so wonderful is the fact still NADA from immigration....SIGH. We are approaching our 180 day mark here QUICK. As soon as that day hits I am on the phone! We want to hear something SOON.
One thing that has KIND of made us feel a bit better is I said I will go visit for a week or two in December if worse case scenario we don't hear by then. Geoff will be here to have Gabby so would not be that hard a thing to do! I just don't want to have to do that as want my man here and to be married by him way before December!!! UGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
Monday, July 7, 2008
Thursday, July 3, 2008
Thursday, June 26, 2008
I got a new job with more money YAY! Moving on UP! Now to get motivation to do a masters heh heh. Someday. I am now a Vocational Assessment Coordinator, at least that is my title. I am only conducting follow ups with clients at the moment for counselors and then will hopefully learn to give tests as well to individuals.
Tomorrow is my Daddy's 50th Birthday! Going to my sisters new pad for a cookout so that should be nice tomorrow night. Then bringing Gabby to a parade on Saturday morning if the weather cooperates!
Back to waiting...........
Saturday, June 21, 2008
So anyone know if I can use this somehow or do I have to use my digi cam and then upload?
Thanks for any tips folks!
Sunday, June 15, 2008
Here are a couple faves I snapped at the park of Gabby and her friend Josh (I have been friends with his Daddy since I was in the 9th grade awwww).
Thursday, June 12, 2008
Yup nothing yet from immigration....all I can say is FUCKKKKKK it is so irritating and aggravating and infuriating and every other angry word that ends in "ing".
I did call and get through to a real person on Tuesday who took my name and info down and even gave me a reference number! Thank you Erica whoever you are! Thing is I have no idea what to do with this here reference number as it doesn't seem to have anywhere I can plug it into to find info now about this number haha....
I am getting so tired of seeing all these people who filed after us get approvals :( I am happy for them don't get me wrong but it is soooo hard. I know I got divorced right before our application went in and I know that may slow up things but really doesn't seem it would be that big a deal! I mean I had all documents stating I am legal to marry again etc... people get married all the time right after being divorced from others so not like I am the first to ever try it! JEESH.
Only other thing I think could be slowing things down is the fact that Gareth attempted to come here in December and got turned around and sent back to London. But even that they told him should not cause any problems in the future for him to come here...it is just they thought he was going to try and stay (well we are doing things all by the book and purposely asking for him to be able to stay this time and look what good it is doing us!?).
So yeah it is one of them days where I am none to happy....It is also hot as Satans bumhole in this 3rd floor apartment so I am chilling in my bra with a fan right on me.. ACE.
Monday, June 2, 2008
Wednesday, May 28, 2008
I so want our September 27th,2008 wedding to happen....it all seems so surreal and I hate that feeling...the feeling it is not real..the feeling it is not going to actually happen! Come on CSC (California Service Center for processing immigration visas) make this nervous feeling go away and send us our approval!!!!
Wednesday, May 21, 2008
Needless to say we have yet to hear shit all from immigration services....so the wait is on....
I interviewed for two new positions through my job but no idea if I will get offered either one. Today was one of those days though that made me REALLY want to find another job. Just way too hectic for such little pay....it really can stink in that way.
Gabby is so pleased to be going to a party at Chuckie Cheese tomorrow for one of her best friends in kindy. It is so cute to see her carefully pick out a present and then of course she had to wrap it herself! heh heh...She picked her out a cute Strawberry Shortcake doll that comes with a tree swing playset. Something I would have loved for sure as a child since I was a Strawberry Shortcake nut at that age.
I just want Gareth here enjoying all with us. I am soooo beyond ready for him to be on his way here and in my arms!!!!
Thursday, May 15, 2008
Sunday, May 11, 2008
Yes the pinata was on the floor as we had no where to safely hang it from LOL! The girls didn't mind! That was Gabby wearing her new tinkerbell fairy type dress up outfit as she took a few wacks!
Well today I have cleaning ahead of me and vegging as much as I can! Maybe giving Gabby's new Mario Kart for wii a try :)
Wednesday, May 7, 2008
Other news to panic about...I am putting in for 2nd job this week that would be a promotion for me from my current job. Both jobs are pretty different than what I am currently doing but both actually require a bachelors degree which my current position does not. This SHOULD mean more money for me which lord knows I need more money! I mean a person with an education should not have to get state assistance with food stamps and such...just my own personal opinion haha! But I gladly take any help I can get as jeesh I sure do work hard and deserve all I can get...so there! haha.
Once Gareth gets here life is going to be so much more fun and relaxing and I am yearning for those moments so badly. Everything just seems so high stress for me at the moment when it truly does not need to be. I always have to remind myself....stop....pause...breathe...it will be ok!
Monday, May 5, 2008
I am lusting after THIS
It is soooo darn cute and blue and my man has the earlier model which does an awesome job....I let him know I wanted this since my birthday is coming up and all ;)
Saturday, May 3, 2008
I want my Bear here with us for some of this summer! I mean if we got our approval in May there is the actual chance he could be here in July for sure!!! That is so exciting to me!!!! I am trying to not get hopes up too damn high but shit it is hard when we have been waiting so damn long to see one another again.
Went out driving around looking at houses for sale today too....that is a biggie on our to do list once Gareth arrives as well.....buying our first house! Big changes to come in next year or so hopefully!!!
Ok off to enjoy my Labatts ;)
Thursday, May 1, 2008
Gabby turns 6 in 13 days!
I just want HIM here with us and sure hope this is our month to hear something!
Have a kind of busy month ahead.....Gabby's party on the 10th, Mothers Day on the 11th, Gabby's birthday which I am taking her out to lunch on the 13th, I go to Chicago to see the Cure on the 17th, and I am volunteering at a beer tent on the 30th.....let's hope all these things make time move for me!
Wednesday, April 30, 2008
Got ideas a swirling about in my nugget and it feels good!
On a down note I am back to sitting around doing nothing at work supposedly today.....arghhhh! It drives me absolutely mad I tell ya! I mean it is one thing to entertain myself for 8 hours but then add on top of that the fact I have to entertain 8 to 12 special needs adults for 7 of those hours!
Roll on Friday when I can sit down with some cans of Labatts and my craftsy shits!
Saturday, April 26, 2008
Only thing preventing me from sitting down with supplies tonight is one too many cans of Labatt's and supreme sleepiness from going out last night and not sleeping well. I am too old to stay out past midnight haha!
Tomorrow is my Bear's Birthday..... :( I just so wish I was there with him celebrating......
Sunday, April 20, 2008
Actually got some stuff done today but still never as much as truly needed due to me napping and being lazy :P
Sat on the balcony a bit with Gabby too around 5 pm and again marveled at how sudden it seems the weather has shifted here in Michigan. I am SO happy it is spring and Gabby and I are both looking forward to the trees having leaves on them again! One thing that makes me smile is looking down into the little courtyard there is a bed of daffodils....right now only one has managed to pop out and say hello. It looks so cute right in the middle the only yellow head brave enough to come out in this crazy Michigan spring weather we have had. Need to try and snap a pic tomorrow morning before it's friends finally join it!
Gareth and I are approaching the 100 day mark since we applied for his fiance' visa....gosh I really do not want to make it to 100 days! I want our approval NOW NOW NOWWWWW! I just am praying and hoping and wishing and having fingers crossed etc...that we hear something SOON and can move onto next steps of planning our life together!
Oh bought a couple books today one being "The Cheapest Family in America" hoping to gain some tips and insight into becoming debt free someday and still own a house etc....hahaha...wish me luck with that (yes and I did just order Wii Fit and Mario Cart for Wii as well this week....oopsie!). But hey bought the book so that is a step in the right direction right? Or not since I spent money on the book?????
Wednesday, April 16, 2008
- First thing in the morning bending over to get something off the floor...stand up and WHAM head into doorknob! #$%^&!!!
- Walking into break room at work and WHAM where did that table come from that has always been there? Right into the corner of it my thigh did hit @#*&$!!!!
- Last thing of the night getting pillows out of daughters room from lower part of her loft bed...WHAM there goes a different part of my head into the wood above me! $#@&!!
Not sure if I was just clumsy as all heck yesterday or I can just chalk it up to a bad day overall but man oh man puh-leaseeeee no bumps or bruises today!!!
Tuesday, April 15, 2008
I cannot express enough how much I want Gareth here as I know he is going to be such a tremendous help to me and Gabby both! Yes I miss his love and cuddles but man oh man right now I would do anything for someone to help out with some of the tidying around the flat haha!
For those that do not know we applied for a fiance' visa in January....we have now been waiting over 85 days for the approval so we can get on with the next steps. It is such a hard thing all this waiting. Mostly because we thought we were going to see one another this past December :(
We are in it for the long haul though and we both know it will be worth it in the end when we are finally together!
Thursday, March 13, 2008
Wow so much going on since last post, in fact need to look to see when I last blogged here.....
Ok wow yeah haven't blogged since November....ok where to begin?
My man never got here! Well he got here to Detroit but not to our town. He arrived in Detroit on time and then was questioned for 4 hours in customs and then put into a holding cell for 14 hours while he waited on a return flight to the UK! My disgust, depression, etc..cannot begin to be explained.